Feeling like a fraud and having imposter syndrome
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You’re Not a Fraud (Overcoming Imposter Syndrome)

Ponekad u osobnim i profesionalnim izazovima koči nas osjećaj da nismo dovoljno dobri i da smo manje vrijedni dok su svi drugi bolji od nas.


Osjećaš li ikada da su svi oko tebe pametniji, sposobniji i imaju bolji posao od tebe?

Osjećaš li da tvoja postignuća su rezultat sreće i da nemaju veze s tvojom sposobnošću i talentom?

Osjećaš li strah da će svi otkriti kako si “varalica” i kako nisi dobar u tome što radiš?

Osjećaš li se ikada kako ne možeš biti poput neke uspješne osobe?

Ako si odgovorio s DA na barem jedno pitanje, patiš od imposter sindroma iliti sindroma varalice.

Nisi čudan, nisi drugačiji i nisi bolestan, nego proživljavaš nešto što proživljava svaka osoba na ovoj planeti.

Što je Imposter sindrom?

Imposter sindrom je psihološki fenomen, osjećaj i iskustvo koje svaki pojedinac proživljava. Skloni smo vjerovati da nismo dovoljno dobri i kvalificirani, da su drugi pametniji od nas i da ne zaslužujemo svoja postignuća, bilo privatno ili profesionalno. Čak i kada dobro obavimo posao, osjećamo se da nismo zaslužni za to.

Često smo uvjereni kako smo sami u tome i jedini koji to proživljavaju, dok istovremeno i ostali pojedinci razmišljaju u tajnosti o istim stvarima. Nitko se ne usudi pričati o svojim slabostima jer se boje da ne budu razotkriveni kao “varalice”, odnosno da će ih svi vidjeti kao nesposobnu i glupu osobu. Zato se i često pitamo “Što ja uopće radim?”.

Imposter sindrom ubija naše samopouzdanje i hrabrost zbog čega se često odlučimo – odustati od svega. Odustati pokrenuti vlastiti posao, prijaviti se na željenu poziciju, tražiti povišicu, pokrenuti blog, propustiti razne prilike za koje mislimo da bi svi drugi bili bolji osim nas samih.

I sama se susrećem s tim osjećajem. Često sam nesigurna i mislim kako nemam dovoljno znanja za ono što radim i što želim raditi. Upravo zbog toga svjedočim o propustu nekih prilika.
Ali tješi me spoznaja kako nisam sama u ovome i kako najbolji od najboljih ovo prolaze.

Evo nekih primjera:

Alber Einstein je vjerovao kako nije zaslužio toliku pažnju koju je dobio zbog svog posla.

Poznati glumac Tom Hanks je prije samo par godina izjavio kako često s divljenjem gleda svoje kolege glumce i razmišlja kako on nikada neće uspijeti kao oni.

Meryl Streep je izjavila “Zašto bi mene itko htio opet vidjeti u filmu, ionako ne znam glumiti. Zašto onda radim ovo?”,
i mnogi drugi poput Denzela Washingtona, Emme Watson, Will Smitha prolaze isto ono što i ti i ja prolazimo.

Pobijedi Imposter

Osobno, ne vjerujem da možeš u potpunosti izbrisati Imposter iz svoga života ali vjerujem da je tu kako bi postao snažnija osoba.
No, možeš naučiti kako se nositi s njm.

Ono što meni pomaže su vrlo jednostavne sitnice koje možeš pokušati i ti:

Budi svjestan da nisi sam u ovome – i ona osoba kojoj se najviše diviš svakodnevno prolazi u sebi svoje borbice i sumnje

Ah, to je samo imposter – stvarno je sve u glavi i imaš potpunu kontrolu nad tim

Izloži se – pokaži svoje slabosti ostalima, shvatiti ćeš da ljudi imaju puno razumijevanja a i da prolaze iste stvari kao i ti

Piši – izbaci pisanjem iz sebe sve misli koje ti stvaraju manjak samopouzdanja. Pisanje će ti otvoriti novu perspektivu prema stvarima i dolazit ćeš lakše do riješenja

Pokreni se – bilo kakva akcija promijenit će ti fokus. Ne prepuštaj se tom glasu koji ti govori da ostaneš “mali” nego znaj da stvarno možeš apsolutno sve napraviti što želiš

A sada imam mali izazov za tebe. Odvaži se i u komentarima napiši koja je bila zadnja situacija kad si osjećao Imposter. Možda na razgovoru za posao? Za vrijeme networkinga na nekoj konferenciji? Kada te šef pohvalio za dobro obavljeni posao? Nisi pokrenuo vlastiti posao jer misliš da nisi “poduzetnik”? Možeš komentirati i anonimno, ali cilj je da se odvažiš i napraviš prvi mali korak.

Budi hrabar i nemoj odustati zato jer je to najlakše. Želim ti puno hrabrosti da pobijediš sve svoje strahove!

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Feeling like a fraud and having imposter syndrome

In some personal and professional challenges, there’s that feeling that tells us we’re not good enough and that we are less valuable while everyone else is better than us.

Do you ever feel that everyone around you is smarter, more capable and have a better job than you are?

Do you feel that your achievements are the result of luck and have nothing to do with your ability and talent?

Do you fear that everyone will discover how you are a fraud and not good at what you’re doing?

Do you ever feel like you can’t be like that successful person?

If you answered YES to at least one question, you are suffering from imposter syndrome.

You’re not weird, and you’re not different, but you’re experiencing something that every person on this planet experience.

What is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter syndrome is a psychological phenomenon, feeling and experience that every individual experience. We tend to believe that we’re not good enough and qualified, that others are smarter than us and that we don’t deserve our achievements, either privately or professionally. Even when we do the job well, we feel we are not worthy of it.

We’re often convinced that we’re alone in this and the only ones who experience it while at the same time other individuals secretly thinking about the same things. No one dares to talk about their weaknesses because they fear they will be exposed as a fraud or that everybody will see them as an incompetent and stupid person.

Imposter syndrome kills our self-confidence and courage, which is why we often decide – to give up everything. Don’t start our own business, sign up for the desired position, ask for a raise, run a blog, miss out opportunities that we think everyone else will be better for than ourselves.

I’m also a victim of imposter syndrome, often insecure and think I don’t have enough knowledge of what I do and what I want to do. Because of that, sometimes I miss out some opportunities.
But I feel better that I know I’m not alone in this and how the best of the best ones experiencing the same.

Here are some examples:

Alber Einstein believed he didn’t deserve the attention he had received for his work.

An actor Tom Hanks, only a couple of years ago said that he often looks at other actors with admiration and thinks he’ll never succeed like them.

Meryl Streep said “Why would anyone want to see me in the movie again, I don’t know how to act anyway. Why do I do this? “.

And many others like Denzel Washington, Emma Watson, Will Smith going through the same thing as you and I are going.

Beat the imposter

Personally, I don’t believe you can completely erase the Imposter from your life, but I believe it’s there for you to become a more powerful and confident person.

But, you can learn how to deal with it.

What helps me are very simple things you can try too:

You’re not alone – the person you most admire, also going through some personal struggles and self-doubts

Ah, that’s just an imposter – it’s really all in your head, and you’ve full control of it

Expose yourself – show your weaknesses to others, you’ll notice that people are full of understanding and going through the same things as you do

Write – writing out all the thoughts that make you feel bad. Writing will give you a new perspective on things, and you will easier come to a solution

Get started – any action will change your focus. Don’t let that voice telling you to stay “small” but know that you can really do everything you want


And now I have a little challenge for you. I dare you to comment and write down below what was the last situation when you felt the Imposter. Maybe in a job interview? During networking at a conference? When your boss praised you for a well-done job? You didn’t start your own business because you thought you’re not an “entrepreneur”? You can also comment anonymously, but your goal is to make the first small step.

Be brave, and don’t quit because it’s easier. I wish you all bravery to beat up everything you’re afraid of!

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